Mommy Guilt – Migraines Suck

Cooking with the Family

My husband and I have had this running joke for years- his best dish is spaghetti. That’s because, besides cereal, it’s the only thing he cooks. It’s delicious and while I’m sure he and my son could eat this dish all day every day, I simply cannot. For my husband, standing in the heat is not very appealing- he shies away from cooking. I actually love to cook and am always in the kitchen. Some members of my family would find that hard to believe. But my boys will tell you, they get a good number of home cooked meals from me and not just dinner.

I love finding new and alternative ways to make a dish. Since I’m a work at home mom, I have plenty of time to prepare meals and think of new recipes that my family will enjoy. Lately, my husband has been meditating and paying more attention to his body, so I knew presenting cooking as a way to stay healthy would be a good way to reintroduce him to the art of cooking. To me, cooking food is a way to bring the family together, to create memories. I would love to get my husband and son in the kitchen with me.

On my last trip to the thrift bookstore, I purchased The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Cooking Basics. This book is like a dictionary from the culinary Gods themselves. We are definitely no idiots, but we felt ourselves a little overwhelmed by some of culinary terminology. I learned a lot flipping through this book and learned so many new terms. 

Barding – Covering the meat with a thin layer of fat before cooking.

Coodling – Cooking food in simmering water for a very short time. This is primarily used with eggs. See below.

800px-Coddled_Egg_on_hashPhoto Credit: John Herschell via Flickr

Studding – Inserting spices, herbs or other flavorings to the surface of the food.

Trussing – Keeping the shape of a whole chicken or other poultry during roasting, tie the wings and legs with a string.

Fluting – Making a decorative edge on a pie or pastry. See below.


I have never heard of any of these terms before, but the techniques are something I want to try to incorporate in my cooking. A simple change like those listed above could easily turn a basic dish into a brand new flavor- without much additional work. New approaches are something my husband and I can learn together, which I hope will spark his desire to cook more. 

His spaghetti, although simple to make, is some of the best I’ve ever had. I know he would be a great cook if he tried, and I wouldn’t mind being his taste tester.

Are there any terms or cooking processes that you have learned recently? How do you incorporate family cooking/mealtime with your family? Please feel free to leave a comment and share.

My BET Experience- Part 1 

Since moving to California a little over six months ago, I have been itching to go to an event. Any event would do- at least for now. When I heard the BET awards was being held in L.A. and hosting free events, I just knew I had to be there.

Now here’s the tough part. What to wear!

I am not a brand name girl by any means. But I do understand the quality that comes with certain brands. Realistically, as a SAHM I can’t afford them. But for an event that will be photographed and have the potential for interviews, you got to look your best. I’m not even a celebrity, but I still try to never wear the same outfit twice. Honestly, I just have too many clothes for that. Most of my thrifted items are fun, timeless and can be worn with anything for any event. The time it to look for me to dig through my closet to find a dress or outfit wasn’t that bad. I had to rush; that L.A. traffic is crazy!

I chose this dress I bought from a thrift store back in Maryland. I posted this picture on Instagram a while back. I had no idea when or where I would wear this dress. I hadn’t tried it on since I bought it and I forgot it fit me so well. That’s a perfect buy. No alterations. No extra money!

The event was held at the L.A. convention center near the Staples Center. I had only seen the outside of these buildings before. The security line was getting long when we arrived at 1:15 (after finding parking in L.A.). The security closed the doors right after us because of over capacity. We just made it in to find out the celebrity basketball game had started and was too full. Now this game was my bribe to get my hubby and my son to people watch and snap good pics. I had to find something to do for them ASAP. Their disappointment was real. Of course, it’s my hubby that notices the Xbox gaming center out of the corner of his eye. They also had fun things to do for the kids that was sponsored by Nickelodeon.

 Once I saw they were having a blast on their own, it was me time. I “lost” them and made my way over to the other booths. There were so many people and so much to do. The CoverGirl sign caught my eye, and I just had to just get even more glamorous because it was FREE!   The service menu included one of three choices. I chose number 2. I’m not gonna lie; I was elated when the make-up artist said “you already did a good job let me give you a red lip.” She let me keep the Outlast Lipstick and some of their new Super Sizer by LashBlast Mascara she also used on me.

I met some great people while here. The networking opportunities were amazing, and I exchanged some info with a few ladies on those long food truck lines. On my way out of the event, I couldn’t help but get in character and take a pic in front of one of my favorite shows, Being Mary Jane.

Yesterday was great, but I’m eager to see what the live events will look like today for the BET Awards. I’m on my way to the red carpet; hopefully even more exciting things are in store!

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