Happy New Year

Wow! Its been a whole freaking year. As I look back on the last 365 days I feel overwhelmed yet accomplished. What a year this has been! 

Let’s rewind… 

My body took a hit mentally and physically in the last few days in 2014. Not only did I go through the strenuous process of selling our home in less than a month, my husband was diagnosed with a serious illness and my cousin was murdered during the holidays. As much as I wanted to quit and give up, I was determined to use my anger and sadness as motivation. After my husband’s diagnosis we decided to live a more purposeful life. Although circumstances tried to break me, nothing was going to stop my plan, my mission! 

My stress was at an all time high on moving day. Everything finally hit me once I got on the plane. I had one of the worst migraines in my life that day. My sons first plane ride he spent taking care of mommy 😦  Getting off the plane we had like 10 bags between two and a half people. I was wheeled out in a wherlchair so you really shouldnt count me. (Thank God for airport workers!) 

The first month in Cali we spent looking for a place to live and sightseeing. We planned this time to be used a vacation and exploration of our new home state. We rented a storage unit near our first hotel to store the items we did not need to lug around with us all month. We ended up staying at about 5 different hotels in cities all over Southern California. Thankfully, both my husband and I had income and savings during this time. 

Of all the places we stayed we did not feel as “at home” like we did here. California is a beautiful state and I’m sure esthetically we couldnt have made a bad choice. We choose our location based on pure intuition. While staying in the last hotel we stopped for lunch on the main road nearby. After eating we drove by an apartment complex that had flags waving with a sign that read “XL patios, 2 spas, 2 pools, & a Gym” we decidedly to check it out. 

After some major interjections from our spirit guides we were approved for the apartment and moved in the same day. Which meant no more hotels! However, it also meant we were starting all over, sleeping on the floor, and away from friends and family.  

We hit many financial roadblocks due to the relocation and to be honest, we are still catching up. I’ve learned to live my life minimally and simplistically. We still haven’t gotten a microwave and probably won’t anytime soon. But our furniture, appliances, and toys have all been replaced. But we decided a while ago -home is where we are! 

We are happier and closer than ever. Life has meaning and is filled with joy. More travel is on the forecast for us in 2016. We have plans to get our son a passport so the sky is truly the limit. 

As we are hours away from the New Year and I sit and to write in my new planner, I wonder, what can happen this year? 

I guess I better be careful what I plan for…



Parental Influence

We grow up to rely on our parents or authority to show us what is right and wrong. Their opinions and dreams for our lives often become our own. But as we grow older and our lives change, so do our priorities and views on life. Because kids grow up to crave their parents satisfaction or affirmation, they often do what their parents say without hesitation. I have to admit, I was never really one of those kids.

I wasn’t a “bad” kid, but I had what you call a “bad attitude.” I stood up for myself the best I could. I used my words and my wits to let people know… DO NOT MESS WITH ME!

My son being born was one of the most life-changing events in my life. When I became a mother, I realized what it meant to be a parent. Unfortunately, it forced me to come to a deeper realization of my own parents actions. Discretion was always a big deal in my house growing up. Everything was supposed to be kept hush-hush and never discussed. As an adult, I now know how traumatizing that was.

Resentment builds, rage happens and feelings get hurt. We implement open communication in my house now. Because I promised myself early on that my son would receive some of the things I didn’t have growing up: honesty and compassion. 

You may need to distance yourself from people or situations that are negatively influencing you until you’re strong enough to be around them. Letting go is not easy, especially if it is a family member or close friend. It may even be your pastor/minister. Just because a person is older or in a higher position of power doesn’t mean you follow them blindly. There is a time to be passive and there is a time to be aggressive. It took me a while to listen to my intuition but when I did, I got rid of some major baggage. Change begins with a decision. Good or bad…

Finding Peace Through Meditation


For those of you who don’t know already, meditation has many health benefits. Studies show that meditation can heal by resetting the nervous system. In fact, people with Fibromyalgia and Psoriasis have been using meditation as a form of treatment and it has shown significant improvements. Most people meditate to clear their minds and get rid of unwanted thoughts and feelings. I know several people who meditate regularly. My husband has tried several times over the last two years to get me to meditate. He has a daily routine. At first I’ll admit I thought he was just going through a phase. But it stuck. He loves the feeling after.

He uses the more traditional technique, called Transcendental Meditation. Which uses a mantra (word or phrase) to calm his internal thoughts. If you are a beginner to meditation, experts say TM would probably be best to try first. This may be true, but it doesn’t work for me. I guess everyone is unique and our minds operate differently as a result.

The primary reason for me starting to meditate was to relieve physical and emotional tensions in my body that often causes my migraines. I have seen many doctors over the years and have been given numerous prescription drugs. Muscle relaxers, anti-depressants, and other painkillers do not work without incapacitating me. Thankfully, I can honestly say I have seen a vast improvement in my condition since starting meditating a year ago. It has definitely helped to reduce my stress level and lower my anxiety. Surprisingly, my memory has improved as well as my patience. Most importantly, my spirituality has grown, and I have become more grateful of my life in its current state.

From personal experience, positive thinking, a noise-free environment, and an open mind are all you need to start meditating. If difficulties arise early on, try to focus on your breathing instead of a phrase or Mantra. Take deep breaths to help you concentrate and achieve balance. Each breath can help connect you to your higher self. Surprisingly, even if thoughts are running in my head non-stop, I can still focus on my breath and get back to my “safe spot” and/or happy place. Another way to meditate is to focus your attention on different body parts. Start at your feet and go up the legs relaxing the muscles as you continue. Next, go to the stomach and chest. When finished, you will end at the top of your head. The goal is to go through the body’s seven chakras. Essentially this technique is called a chakra alignment meditation. However you decide to meditate, just know that it will help calm your entire body and create serenity. Lately, I have been very conscious of my posture, therefore I like also to take this time to strengthen my back and core when inhaling and exhaling which can actually help keep you centered.

Remember to do what works for you. Keep at it! Try every day until it feels comfortable or more natural, even if it’s 5 minutes a day.

Peace & Love 🙂

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